In reading this post and drafting a response, I happened upon this scene which is constant in the Peanuts comic franchise, this comment reminding me of it. It’s ultimately another man-up rant to join the countless others, but this illustration is so good it’s worth exploring.
So, I’ll hold the football, and you come running and kick it…
This is actually a pretty good illustration of what’s going on in the state of marriage as it exists today. The Peanuts comic has this scene, which repeats itself, where Lucy holds a football for Charlie Brown to place kick. He always points out that Lucy never manages to actually HOLD the football for him, but she always manufactures some excuse that she will hold it THIS TIME. She always manages to pull the football away as Charlie Brown reaches the ball, making him fall flat on his ass and she gets her jollies that she fooled him again.
It’s a perfect illustration of the fallacy many are operating under, and it’s something I’ve dealt with a couple of times here already. Most others have too, and there already hasn’t been anything said in the comments to that post that I wouldn’t have already said in directly responding to this.
In the comic illustration, Charlie Brown is the leader by kicking the football and moving it, while Lucy is the help-meet in her role of holding the football. He can attempt to kick the football repeatedly, but if Lucy doesn’t hold it there and instead pulls it away, he will fall flat on his ass every time. It is a great illustration of what is going on in the modern society. Men seem to instinctively know this, but women seem to not get this:
A lot of the men in the manosphere apparently expect a ready-made woman who will just submit to them and not be a bother. Their idea of a ‘submissive woman’ is sort of like a robot, or a pet rock, as one (male) commentator noted recently. Their complaints show that they don’t accept or understand the nature of women. Outside the manosphere there are more men than you might think who are essentially looking for a mother – someone to run the show and make their lives easy. Scoff all you like, but I’ve seen it too much to believe that it isn’t just a small minority of men who are like that.
If you expect women to shape up, I’m afraid the larger burden is on men to shape up and lead. A woman is not a leader. This is biblical, so if you don’t like it, take it up with God, not me.
I have already addressed the fallacy in the second paragraph, but it seems, given the nature of women, that it can be easy for the women to read the manosphere and believe what is in the first paragraph by what a lot of us write. The first paragraph is totally incorrect.
What we want is rather a woman that will be trustworthy and honest about her intentions to submit and actually show herself capable of submission. What we want is a woman that will actually hold the football there so we can kick it. What we want is rock-solid assurances that the woman will be held to account for pulling the football away as much as men are held to account for not trying to place kick the football. We’re tired of trying and falling flat on our asses. Falling on your ass hurts A LOT.
It’s no surprise men have stopped trying to kick the football entirely, as most all men have a lot more sense than Charlie Brown does. Women will notice that men aren’t trying more than they’ll notice the results of them pulling the football away. Where are the wrongs in the case, as it relates to the repeated Charlie Brown scene?
1. Lucy makes Charlie Brown think that she is going to submit by holding the football for him to place-kick. She fails in submission, not only failing to hold the football in place but pulls the football away.
2. Charlie Brown for falling for the stories that Lucy is actually going to hold the football this time and trying to place-kick the ball anyway. Believing the rationalizations and falling for the stories the women and their proctors are putting out is the biggest danger facing men at the moment.
Women complain about men never kicking the football, and in fact are refusing to submit until the man proves that he’s going to kick the football and can kick it like an NFL pro:
Nevertheless, it is true that a man has to show himself worthy of submitting to and that we women cannot submit to a marshmallow. Once we have deemed him trustworthy, we can relax and submission is much easier, even when it is difficult, so to speak.
To make it simple: When women start womaning-up by showing (not saying) their willingness to submit and actually hold the football there and are receiving consequences for pulling it away, then we can talk about men manning-up and kicking the football. Real manhood is not willingly submitting to a woman pulling the football away and being the butt of her laughter for it. Justice THEN reconciliation.
It took Charlie Brown being turned invisible and kicking the ball when Lucy didn’t realize it for him to actually kick the football and see what he could do. This says something to our marriage situation as well. CL and other women can deride men about being Peter Pans who don’t want to grow up, or looking for another mother and not a wife all they want, but since a lot of these men have never gotten to actually kick the football, how will we ever know?